Coming from a home with a mother who never married after her first husband passed, i can only speak about what i've seen through family and friends marriages. Some married for love, which either eventually died in a romantic way or in very few cases these days their love blossomed even more. Some married because they felt they were forced to. Some married because the wedding would be a great little party and some married because that's what their relationship eventually lead to.
Maybe i'm a bit naive, okay a lot... but i believe that when you get married you do so with the intention of staying together forever. I'm still stuck in that Fairytale promise that says you'll live happily ever after and ride into the sunset. I'm not even going to try to be a marriage councillor, because clearly i know nothing about the subject but i do have my strong beliefs.
Some people have to end a marriage because its just that unbearable, but some give in too easily, especially the younger generation. I've spoken to a women just a few years older than me in the prime of her life, and she believes that it doesn't matter if you get married for the wrong reasons, because you could always get a divorce.
Is this what my generation's beliefs are? and where on Earth does it come from? Have we just become so selfish that we don't believe in life-long marriages anymore?
One thing that i can say about the subject that is on target, is that people loved way more a few years ago and just werent as selfish. To quote Black Eyed Peas, "Where is the Love?"
Good question to ask. I too get impression that given the rate of divorce, love is packaged to last not more than 7 years. Maybe we are being influenced and following the exsmples of celebrity role models (with the latest marriage lasting just over 70 days). 'Until death us do part' seems like forbidden words nowadays
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